When your child calls home and says, “I don’t want to do this job anymore”, many parents may immediately feel worried and say, “If it’s too difficult, just come home.”
However, before advising your child to quit or return to Vietnam, take a moment to ask these seven questions.
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Why does your child want to quit?
Ask calmly:
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Is the work too hard or are the working hours too long?
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Are there problems with their manager or colleagues?
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Are there issues with salary, working hours or accommodation?
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Or are they simply homesick, tired or under pressure?
Understanding the real reason is the first step towards finding a solution.
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How long has the problem been happening?
If your child has only had one difficult day at work, they may simply be tired or upset.
But if the problem has continued for weeks and is affecting their health, wellbeing or daily life, the situation should be taken more seriously.
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Does your child want to quit this job or return to Vietnam?
These are two different decisions.
Your child may not be suited to their current job but may still want to continue living and working in Japan.
If they want to return to Vietnam, ask why and what they plan to do after coming home.
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What is the plan after quitting?
Ask:
“What will you do after you leave this job?”
If your child already has a plan to move to another job, help them research the situation carefully before making a decision.
If they have no clear plan, it is better not to make a decision while they are angry or overwhelmed.
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Is your child facing a serious problem?
If your child says they have been physically assaulted, threatened, had their documents withheld, not been paid, forced to work inappropriately or feel unsafe, parents should take the situation seriously.
In these cases, do not simply tell your child to “put up with it”. Encourage them to contact their employer, support organisation or the relevant authorities for advice.
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Has your child spoken to anyone about the problem?
Ask whether they have talked to:
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Their manager or supervisor
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Their employer or sending organisation
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Their supervising organisation or support organisation, if applicable
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A trusted Vietnamese person living nearby
Some problems can be resolved when they are reported to the right person.
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What does your child want you to do?
Instead of immediately saying “You have to keep going” or “Just come home”, parents can ask:
“What can we do to help you right now?”
Sometimes your child simply needs someone to listen. Sometimes they need their family to help them consider the options.
The important thing is not to make the decision for your child before understanding what is really happening.
Quitting a job does not necessarily mean failure. However, before leaving, your child should understand the reason, know what needs to be done and have a plan for what comes next.
Parents cannot solve every problem for a child living far from home, but they can help their child stay calm and make a more informed decision.
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